“I am 38 and married, no children. She is 28 and engaged. We met in a management class that we have been taking for almost one year. There has been some flirting going on, and I get the feeling there is some mutual attraction, but no one has made an attempt to make something happen. I do want to let her know how much I am attracted to her, but I feel that if I do then she will lose interest. Maybe she just likes the flirting and attention I give her.
“She knows about my relationship problems with my wife. She has not had another sex partner other than this fiance, and I have not had the experience of being with another woman besides my wife … and it’s something I want to experience before I die. Plus, the wife is kind of a prude when it comes to sex anyway. What would be the best approach to this situation without losing a possible friendship?”
—Approaching Midlife Crisis
Midlife crisis, my ass! Don’t blame this on some sort of male phenomenon—get real with yourself. You write to me about how to approach this, ahem, friend of yours, but the real problem is something you just want to gloss over: your marriage.
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