Dear Cosmo: One can market “25 Hottest New Bedroom Tricks to Please Him” in only so many ways. Yeah, sex is about sharing pleasure and ensuring that of your partner. But don’t let a magazine like Cosmopolitan make you think it’s up to the woman to do all the arousing around here.
Turning the tables is no better. Telling a man to treat a woman like a princess, to suck her toes (girls can have gross feet, too, you know) and to buy her pearled flossy panties is the same thing.
Whether you’re straight or queer, sex is ultimately about you and your pleasure, however you derive that. If you get pleasure from your partner’s pleasure, that’s double the fun. The rest of us will admit that yes, when we’re coming we’re not exactly thinking about whether our partner feels the same ecstasy we just shivered through.
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