Contrary to popular belief, the orgasm is not the meaning of life. It’s not even the essence of sex with a serious partner. An orgasm doesn’t assure you of love and it sure as hell doesn’t get you into med school. So if it isn’t all that and a bag of no-additives, organic, baked potato chips, then why is it so important to have one (or multiple)?
Well, here’s the thing: Having orgasms is important if you’re not having orgasms. Are you still with me on this one? It’s the craving to have something you desperately lack or want and to ultimately prove something to yourself and to your partner. It’s supposed to be an easy measure of enjoyment and satisfaction.
Plus, we put so much pressure on the climax. It’s the grand finale, the world-rockin’ zenith of human pleasure. Right?
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