[me]: tell christine to hurry up and update her blog!
[Lisa]: its interesting, i like it
[Lisa]: isnt it just a weekly thing?
[me]: i need it twice weekly!
[Lisa]: hahahaha
[me]: chop chop!
[Lisa]: isnt it every tuesday? i feel like shes competing with the daily cal’s sex on tuesday
[me]: all i know is that it’s been too long
[Lisa]: haha maybe you should leave her a comment to tell her that!

Another friend of mine was as intelligent and mature at 15 as any college student you’d ever see, and she started getting into some very serious stuff very early with her boyfriend, fully aware of the possible ramifications.

What about sex at a younger age? Let’s say, around 13. Do you think there’s a problem with that age? Because technically, most girls around that age start or are already having their period, and their hormones are surely changing for the more sexually active. As for boys, their hormones are definitely being stirred, and it’s a time when they’re very sexually curious.

For most, it’s pretty much the fact that most kids their age are stupid. They believe sexual myths and end up with STDs or get pregnant. But let’s assume that this particular example of a sexually active 13 year old is smart about things. They use protection, they’re well aware of the risks, and they still decide to engage in sexual activities.

Do you think it’s morally justified or is it still wrong?

In my opinion, I think it’s more of an issue of mental maturity. I think they would regret it later on, probably because they thought at that time they were really in love with their sexual partner and really didn’t know any better. But if they were just fucking around, doing whatever with whomever they wanted to, I actually don’t see a problem with that, as long as they’re well aware of what they’re doing.

Any opinions?

~Emiko

As for what Celine mentioned, about having the experienced ones pass on their knowledge. I like the idea of that. It doesn’t matter if the experienced person has had experiences with a bajillion (though, I must admit, it does sound dirty), I think it’s just more important that they use that experience to help someone else explore their own sexuality, find pleasure in sex, and pleasure with one another. Be it girl w/ girl, boy w/ boy, girl w/ boy, boy w/ non-human being? Whatever. The point is that not only is there quality in the act, not only is there meaning in the act, it is highly important that the act is SHARED, that the pleasure is not a one way street and that should there be an inexperienced person in the mix, that that person learn a thing or two. And actually, being able to share your sexual talents puts meaning into the act. Think of it as sex education my dears.

And Christine, I totally agree with you that sex is just an act. Most things in life are what they are. It is people and the thoughts/opinions of those people (which comprise this thing we call society) that puts positive and/or negative connotations/definitions/etc into an act. Sex itself is just literally a penis penetrating a vagina, a penis penetrating an anus, or whatever other acts you consider to be sexual in nature. It is what it is. The rest… it’s just society telling you what to feel, how to feel, and limiting your ability to do something shamelessly.

But you have to explore the term “meaningful.” To someone with 0 or a few sexual partners, meaningful comes from rarity, from waiting for that special person. For those who are a bit more promiscuous, meaningful is not necessarily rarity. Meaning comes from their partners, from the act of sex itself. Sex is not like a rare gem - it’s hardly as glittering or impenetrable as we may want it to be.

It’s hard to compromise on sexual politics, to make a bridge between a number discrepancy.

What I want people to realize is that sex itself is just an act. It has no inherent meaning, especially now. It is not meant solely for reproduction. It only takes on significance and meaning from society and those who experience it. You don’t have to welcome promiscuous sex with open legs, but realize those who do get it on a lot aren’t always using people, spreading STIs, and fucking anything living.

As for your comment, Lori, about guys being more active…it isn’t always the case and we shouldn’t try to explain it through anthropology. Sex today is different from sex in the caves. Today we use protection and contraception. We’re not trying to further the race every time we do the horizontal tango. Sex drive does not necessarily correlate to gender. I know my sex drive is way higher than some guys. And that’s perfectly fine.

Perhaps not natural.

But who’s to say what is “natural” anymore, especially when we are having “unnatural” sex for pleasure and intimacy, not for the sake of procreation?